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'night, Mother
One of my major pet peeves is when someone says "get over it."
Anyone who says "get over it" to someone has absolutely no interest in the other person. They just want the problem to go away. As if a person who's in such a state that they have to "get over" anything is even in a receptive mindstate that hearing someone say "get over it" would do any good! It's a cop-out and I hate it.
That said, I listened to a live performance recording of the play 'night, Mother, and the entire time I just wanted to smack Jessie upside the head and scream, "GET OVER IT!"
God damn! What an infuriating play. This won the fucking Pulitzer? I'm reading on Amazon about all these people hailing it as a wonderful play, that Jessie is a sympathetic character, that her killing herself was understandable, even perhaps the right decison. No, fuck that. There are people with problems much, much worse than hers, people for whom suicide is far more justifible. Jessie needs to take up a hobby or something. Travel abroad, see the world. Re-evaluate her life, not just go "I don't like my life or the state of the world so I'm going to kill myself."
If I were her mother, I've have smacked her over the head with that gun, set her straight, and then made her make Momma a pie. That's how the play should have gone. The whole thing would have been five minutes long and it would be a masterpiece.
Good god damn, I need something good to happen to me tonight. Things just don't feel right, and I could seriously use a smile on my face by the end of today.
Anyone who says "get over it" to someone has absolutely no interest in the other person. They just want the problem to go away. As if a person who's in such a state that they have to "get over" anything is even in a receptive mindstate that hearing someone say "get over it" would do any good! It's a cop-out and I hate it.
That said, I listened to a live performance recording of the play 'night, Mother, and the entire time I just wanted to smack Jessie upside the head and scream, "GET OVER IT!"
God damn! What an infuriating play. This won the fucking Pulitzer? I'm reading on Amazon about all these people hailing it as a wonderful play, that Jessie is a sympathetic character, that her killing herself was understandable, even perhaps the right decison. No, fuck that. There are people with problems much, much worse than hers, people for whom suicide is far more justifible. Jessie needs to take up a hobby or something. Travel abroad, see the world. Re-evaluate her life, not just go "I don't like my life or the state of the world so I'm going to kill myself."
If I were her mother, I've have smacked her over the head with that gun, set her straight, and then made her make Momma a pie. That's how the play should have gone. The whole thing would have been five minutes long and it would be a masterpiece.
Good god damn, I need something good to happen to me tonight. Things just don't feel right, and I could seriously use a smile on my face by the end of today.
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*hugs* Sorry the play upset you, but thanks for the PSA...I'll be sure to skip it! My recommendation: watch "Lazy Sunday" again. That should take care of the smile bit.
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On the idea of "get over it!"
(Anonymous) 2006-01-08 11:18 pm (UTC)(link)There was a time in my past were I was seriously stuck due to having a broken heart. I really loved someone and she really betrayed me. Yet, I was still stuck on her. Many people had expressed to me that they felt sad for me and that I was a really nice guy. The sympathy was nice but I realize now that after a point it had no point. My hanging on to it and my wanting otehr peoples' sympathy was holding me back.
It wasn't until a really good friend that I respected immensely told that I had hung on to the pain to long and it was irritating him and not allowing me to simply move on. He said quite simply that what was done was done and Icould hang on to the pain and sadness forever or I could be a man, buck up, and 'get over it'.
The friend was actually a bit harsher than that but his reactions shocked the Hell out of me and I really started to look at myself and me need to just 'get over it'. I was able to take him seriously. I found that I could learn to get over the past. More than that, I realized that for my own good, I needed to.
I think friends can only watch friends torture themselves emotionally and wallow in self pity for so long before, no matter how much they care, those friends watching can't take it any more. Then, when they say 'get over it'. It's not out of a lack of care but realizing that that friend simply needs to and the speaker of the words hopes that they will be taken seriously.
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telling someone to get over it in the immediate is harsh and insensitive, the person needs some time to adjust, take it in, deal wih things.
but after a time, if a person is still having difficulty moving on and getting past whatever it might be, then i think that "get over it" is sound advice.
we ALL have things we need to get over that we just arent.
i know i do.
and a friend of mine once explained the concept and importance of 'getting over it' to in a brilliant fashion. if people would learn to get over things, then they would create far less additional problems for themselves and others.
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