I'll back up thirdbase on that one point; those of us who can appreciate you but aren't quite your type ourselves wonder what's wrong with those girls that *are*.
However, you'll notice that the slight majority of us tend to not say anything, because we know there's nothing more frustrating to a chronically single person than to hear "you're so awesome, why are you still single?" from people of the opposite sex. Particularly if they're single too. "then why in hell am I not good and awesome enough for YOU to date? HUH??".
The nice thing about you, though, is that rather than bitching for the sake of bitching, you bitch introspectively. Bitching with a point. Bitching as entertainment for those who do not fully understand who you are, for the effort of helping them understand a bit better and connecting.
There are many intense people out there. You happen to be one who operates on a plane that is almost entirely an OUTflow of energy, with very little room for energy from other to flow back IN around the chinks. You've taken years figuring out how to let people in, and you've gotten at last to the point where you can offer them a window, with a few people able to get in completely. You, Heffie dear, are a performer to the max. You need that 'stage' between you and the other person. The person you are projects accordingly. For those who do not understand that they need to either sit appreciatively in the audience or get right up there with you, that projecting is very overwhelming.
Those who do understand this intensity, this 'projecting'? We're right here, rooting for you. Go sic 'em.
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However, you'll notice that the slight majority of us tend to not say anything, because we know there's nothing more frustrating to a chronically single person than to hear "you're so awesome, why are you still single?" from people of the opposite sex. Particularly if they're single too. "then why in hell am I not good and awesome enough for YOU to date? HUH??".
The nice thing about you, though, is that rather than bitching for the sake of bitching, you bitch introspectively. Bitching with a point. Bitching as entertainment for those who do not fully understand who you are, for the effort of helping them understand a bit better and connecting.
There are many intense people out there. You happen to be one who operates on a plane that is almost entirely an OUTflow of energy, with very little room for energy from other to flow back IN around the chinks. You've taken years figuring out how to let people in, and you've gotten at last to the point where you can offer them a window, with a few people able to get in completely. You, Heffie dear, are a performer to the max. You need that 'stage' between you and the other person. The person you are projects accordingly. For those who do not understand that they need to either sit appreciatively in the audience or get right up there with you, that projecting is very overwhelming.
Those who do understand this intensity, this 'projecting'? We're right here, rooting for you. Go sic 'em.