tipsy musings

[thehefner]

I just got back from Andy's with some peeps. Some old friends came in from out of town, and even though drinking is one of the last things I should be doing in my current state, I went anyway. Hell, I would have spent this evening in my room, on the internet, mulling and sulking. Which is never good.

I do love bars when we're pretty much the only ones there. There was only one other group, two girls and two guys, all around 25 years old. And God damn if one of the girls- tall, blonde, very attractive- wasn't checking me out. Seriously, she kept glancing over at me every time I went to the bar to get a drink or some water. If she didn't have her boyfriend there, I would totally have struck up a conversation. Heck, I probably should have anyway, but I regaled myself to the back room with the rest of my friends, and we had a nice enough evening for all that.

You know, regardless of what I keep hearing people say, I still find it hard to believe the possibility that I'm an attractive person and that people would be interested in me. My sexy tight jeans aside, I look in the mirror and I still see Samwise Gamgee. So when a girl I don't even know keeps glancing at me several times over the course of an evening, it still takes me off guard.

I've often wondered how, after college, I would meet people. Where would I go? Bars? Not my scene, really. Clubs? I'm an intellectual, not a dancer. Comic conventions? Hell, the women there are either straight and taken or lesbians and still taken. The theatre? Hell, I'm attracted to actresses, but I learned the hard way that it's a baaaaaaaaaaad idea to date within the theatre. We all loves us the drama way too much, and will actually go to lengths to create situations where drama will unfold.

See, all I had was one drink and now I feel totally discombobulated. It was a Milky Way, that is: Vanilla stoli, chocolate liquor, and Bailleys. Yummy yummy yum yum! But yeah, I'm kinda nyarg right now. Bed's probably a good idea, if I can just calm my thoughts to sleep.

Comments

[katenesswac.livejournal.com]

But Samwise is a cutie!

[katenesswac.livejournal.com]

...I can't believe I just said 'cutie'.

[tazira.livejournal.com]

You know, I hate to say it, but that feeling doesn't go away as you get older. I'm still oblivious to being checked out, and I still look in the mirror and see the ugly, awkward teenager I used to be. I wonder how many people manage to move past that and into genuine egotism. Not many, I'd imagine.

dang it people..

[erzebetbathory.livejournal.com]

you're both gorgeous. what's wrong with youse??

[findingjuliet.livejournal.com]

yes, don't date actors...bad idea.
date musicians instead :)

[thehefner.livejournal.com]

Ah geez, that'd be like dating my father ;)

[findingjuliet.livejournal.com]

or like dating roddy :)

[thehefner.livejournal.com]

RODDY'S MY FATHER?!?!

[tompurdue.livejournal.com]

One meets women the same way one does in college, by doing whatever one does and meeting the women there. It's just a lot fucking slower, because you don't change classes every semester and you don't get an influx of new people every year.

[yancentric.livejournal.com]

I completely disagree.

College is a forest for tree-lovers. Post-college is like living in a city and wondering where they all went. There are still trees around, but instead of weaving in and out of them just trying to get somewhere, you find yourself travelling just to get to one, and it's firmly entrenched outside someone else's brownstone next to a fire hydrant and you think "damn.. there were a lot of trees I could've climbed back in the forest but I was so focused on that Tuliptree and Maple that I ignored that Birch with the nice buds and that fine piece of Ash".

Climb trees, John.

[thehefner.livejournal.com]

"Fine piece of Ash"... that was great.

I've been climbing since I got here, but apparently I just don't have the right boots. Or something. And I'm not desperate, not anymore at least. I've had a couple girls come onto me over the past couple years, but they've almost all been ones to whose feelings I couldn't reciprocate. Eh, so it goes, whatever.

Anyone, I've got two months left here, and with the exceptions of the girls who live relatively close to the DC area, there's no real point to pursue relations with anyone. Hell, it's break-up season, it seems. That's the thing, even if a person still has feelings for their other, they're breaking it off because, I guess, they don't want to graduate with those strings attached. The feelings are still there; it's just a question of minimizing that hurt.

That's my theory, anyway.

[irish-caffeine.livejournal.com]

Want me to introduce you the next time we're there?

[thehefner.livejournal.com]

Sure, it's always be nice to chat with a pretty lady, even if they're taken.

[jayel4192.livejournal.com]

"I still find it hard to believe the possibility that I'm an attractive person and that people would be interested in me."

Dooood! You're totally set then. An approachable hottie without all the narcissicism, vanity, and overblown ego. Last I checked, girls like that.

Part of the reason you don't know where you're going to meet women is that you don't know for sure where you're going to be. But they have a way of showing up. Especially in this town. Might be theatre, might be work, might be a commute (if you don't drive), might be at some yet-undiscovered hangout.

But overall, this is a great place for the hotties. It's not NYC or LA, but it's a virtual boomtown of college girls. I think you'll be okay.

Says the guy who married his college sweetheart, so add salt liberally.

[findingjuliet.livejournal.com]

jayel is right. DC is full of hotties, chock full. So full, that I thought Roddy's eyes were going to pop out of his head when we moved here. See in Baton Rouge there are hotties, but they are mostly shallow hotties. Here you get hotties who are also in the know, the ones you can carry on an intelligent conversation with...and i suppose that's the best kind.

so you're in luck. I'm sure you'll have no problems.

[thehefner.livejournal.com]

Well then perhaps you're gonna have to take me out to some of the hotspots one of these summer days. I'm a suburb boy who doesn't know his way around DC social life.

[findingjuliet.livejournal.com]

you're on baby john :)

[thehefner.livejournal.com]

Yes, well, that last line says it all, dunnit? Regardless, I appreciate the words of encouragement. I'm gonna try not to worry about it. It's just last time I tried to go out to a social venue, I found myself alone in a goth club with a clove cigarette in one hand and a Red Bull and vodka in the other, with the thought "What the fuck am I doing here?"

So yeah, won't be doing that again.

[jayel4192.livejournal.com]

Take friends with you. I see from this thread you already have one offer, so that's good.

My collegiate relationships (in general) were all freakish accidents. I really don't think anyone should be taking them as examples for much of anything. St. John's just isn't a healthy social environment anyway.

I put that at the bottom of the post because I realize I don't have a lot of dating experiences, especially outside of college. But I have friends who date, office stories, etc. Were I single, but otherwise living the exact same life I'm living now, I could get dates, maybe even a relatively healthy relationship. And I do think you'd have an easier time of it than me.

Yeah, it's time for you to start looking for post-graduate spots.

[karmaflouge.livejournal.com]

Dooood! You're totally set then. An approachable hottie without all the narcissicism, vanity, and overblown ego. Last I checked, girls like that.

Jayel is very very right. if you ever realized how nice you looked, the world would be fucked.